“Some women don’t play by the rules. Many times, though, we realize this only in hindsight.
We assume her warm overtures are genuine, so we extend our friendship and trust. However, instead, she betrays us, often at great personal and professional cost. We may wonder what happened and why we didn’t see it coming.
But we shouldn’t be too hard on ourselves. Some women haven’t left behind the childish games they learned on the playground in elementary school.
Little has changed as they’ve gotten older, except they’ve become much better at bullying others, under the radar. They’ve become masters at creating chaos without tipping anyone off, except the unfortunate victim who’s still pinching herself to see if this really happened, and wondering if anyone else would believe what she’s just experienced.
To anyone who fears a Trump-fueled racist fallout, read this and allow it to guide your wisdom and strength in these uncertain times.
Being American is not about race, it is about nationality and how one identifies themselves.
We are all Americans.
We welcome you and your views. We also welcome the right of people to use the democratic process to choose a leader.
Though Trumps words were poorly chosen, we still have an opportunity to communicate to this leader that we will not stand for the mistreatment of any citizen or visitor to our country. Period. Read More
First example in a meeting: “I hear what you are saying, but we’re not going to do that.”
Second example is a father to his child trying to pursuade him to choose an alternative: “What if we put ice cream on top of the cheeseburger?”
The first ends on a negative and can have the effect of shutting down the discussion for further ideas, arguably giving the speaker power over the discussion, but not the problem being solved. The second ends on a positive without dismissing the child’s idea entirely, leaving the child with the understanding that discussion is important as it inspires ideas and, clearly, creative and collaborative problem solving, thus empowering the child to continue to seek knowledge, the truest form of power. Give a man a fish, he’ll eat for a day. Teach a man to fish and you’ll feed him for a lifetime.
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I recently started watching the new TV series Outlander, based on the popular books by Diana Gabaldon. I have never read the books. The series sounded like something I might enjoy, about a woman who time-travels to 18th Century Scotland.
After watching two episodes, I’m already done with it.
I see people raving about the show on Twitter and other social media. Like Charlie Brown, I don’t know how to argue with success. Something is resonating with many viewers, and I don’t mind that they are enjoying it.
But to me it’s a major disappointment. It made me think of how the term “strong female character” is so often misconstrued.
I would like very much to ascend a stage, dressed in a plain get up, phone in hand, slouched ever so intoxicatedly and read Dorothy Parker’s Résumé aloud, from my iPhone whilst smoking a cigar of the pequeno variety.
My performance wouldn’t be the poetry reading as much as it would be the lack thereof by the prohibition of smoking in a DC poets bar.